Want to be Free with Your Mind?
Many people have the misconception that once you recognize who you are, the mind is always going to be silent and you’ll never have a feeling again.
Instead, what happens as you discover the truth of who you are, is you’re less interested in the thinking and in the feelings, and you’re less identified with them so you don’t have the extra reaction.
In other words, something in life is appropriately causing anger, and in addition to that, you’re angry at yourself for feeling angry or judging yourself for feeling angry or punishing yourself for feeling angry, or all the other things we add to it.
When you don’t make up a whole story about it, when you don’t resist it, and don’t engage in whatever the mind’s doing, your thoughts simply arise and disappear. Feelings arise and disappear… which is natural.
This is just like a young child – it’s not that young children never get angry. I’ve never seen a child younger than the age of two hold a grudge. If you let take this in, it will make things a lot easier for you. You won’t have to keep judging yourself for absolutely no reason.
Sometimes the mind is silent and sometimes it’s not. The only difference is your interest level in the contents of what the mind’s saying. Before discovering what you are, you’re fascinated by every individual thought, and you’re making up a story about each one – “Oh, this means I’m good; that means I’m bad.”
Or we’re doing that to someone else – “You’re bad, you’re good.” This tendency to judge drops away and what is left is simply the natural spontaneous livingness that includes thoughts and feelings.
In my experience, it’s not about being free of the mind… it’s being free with the mind. You don’t have to get rid of it.
If you’re attacking the mind, it loves that – in case you haven’t noticed. Basically it’s the mind attacking itself. It’s fighting with itself.
The mind has many voices. There are many tendencies that have their own conglomeration of stories behind them. Their energy and everything attached to them has its own momentum.
That’s part of the reason we do the technique – where you welcome all the energy around a particular thing, and it just simply dissolves when you welcome it.
If you notice, often these energies conflict with each other. Everyone has a good boy and a bad boy inside them; and a good girl and a bad girl – and they’re usually fighting.
It depends on the day what side we’re on. Some days the good girl is in favor of this and the bad girl is in favor of the opposite, and the next day it switches. We don’t even notice this conflict.
We make up all these rules about the way we’re suppose to live life and they’re just that: made up. I’ll tell you the way you’re supposed to live life: exactly as you are… because you’re not doing it; you’re being lived.
Let me clarify that: it doesn’t mean you’re a victim. Most of us pretend to be the victim all the time because we think we should be controlling every thought and feeling, so we’re victimized by that all the time. Be easy on yourself. There’s no reason to get out the whips and chains and beat yourself… it’s not going to help. Okay?
Love,
Hale,
Please Note: This blog is excerpted from the upcoming Inner Circle 4 Audio program.