How to End a Relationship Without Feeling Like the World is Ending
by www.Sedona.com
Many people stay in stale relationships for far too long because of the simple fact that they’re afraid of being alone. Or, they have built up the process of breaking up in their minds so much -- thinking about how miserable it will feel and wondering how you will do without certain aspects of your current partner -- that it seems nearly impossible to actually do.
Yet, if your relationship is no longer fulfilling, you are always better off moving on. How do you know if it’s time to end your relationship? Here are some signs that it may be time:
- You feel frustrated about your relationship more often than not
- You’re finding more reasons to spend time apart
- Your needs are not being met, or it takes a lot of effort on your part to get them met
- Your partner has certain behaviors that you can’t accept, but is unwilling or unable to change them
- Your partner does little to enhance your life
- Your sexual attraction for your partner has waned
- You’re not having fun together anymore
- You do not share goals and dreams for a future
Still, even when you KNOW that it’s time to move on, most of us dread the actual act of doing so. Yet, often this dread is much worse than the actual break-up. In reality, you can end your relationship in a way that preserves your own, and your partner’s, self-esteem and future happiness. How?
“By being open and honest with your partner, and by not blaming them for what happened, you can find a more mutual way to end a relationship,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.
This means talking about your incompatibilities on neutral ground, without pointing fingers, and, hopefully, agreeing that you’ll both be happier going your separate ways. If your partner does not want the relationship to end as you do, you can still make it easier by avoiding put-downs and simply stating, gently but firmly, why you need to move on.
After your relationship has ended, keep in mind that you must let go of the emotional “baggage” that has inevitably accumulated.
“A critical piece to ending any relationship is to allow yourself to release the feelings you have about your partner and about the relationship,” Dwoskin says. “By letting go you not only avoid a lot of the emotional turmoil, you also prevent yourself from simply making the same mistakes in your next relationship.”
The Sedona Method can help you to let go of your past relationship so that you can move forward. It consists of a series of questions you ask yourself that lead your awareness to what you are feeling in the moment and gently guide you into the experience of letting go. Hundreds of thousands of people have already used the Method successfully to:
- Experience dramatic shifts in self-esteem and self-confidence that will ignite passionate romances
- Enjoy deep feelings of inner peace that bring more joy and happiness to everyday life
- Experience freedom from long-standing emotional challenges
- Effortlessly find the courage to take massive action toward being, doing and having the most exciting things life has to offer
As you release the feelings of loss, resentment, self-doubt, and guilt that come with ending a relationship, you will find that you are free to feel positive things about yourself and your life -- and this is the first step to creating the fulfilling life you deserve. | 
