Stop Being Lied To: Why We Fall for Lies and How to Make Yourself Lie-Proof
by www.Sedona.com
How many lies have you told today? If you’re like most people, you’ve fibbed once or twice today alone. And you’ve probably been lied TO as well. Lies occur in anywhere from 30 percent to 38 percent of all interactions, according to estimates.
Why do we do all of this lying? For personal gain, to stay out of trouble, and to protect other’s feelings, for starters. To some extent, with the vast number of liars among us -- we ALL lie sometimes -- being lied to is inevitable.
But then there are those people who attract lies like flies to a honey pot. Why are some people lied to more than others? Because their emotions crave the lie.
“If you are not truthful with yourself or you are not truthful with others you are more likely to attract that type of dishonest behavior from others,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates.
Think of it this way. If you make a habit of giving people insincere compliments, you are likely to get insincere compliments in return. Or, if you tend to judge others or criticize them for their actions, you can expect that they will often lie to you about what they’re doing.
Attracting lies can even happen simply because you’re not at ease with yourself. If you are, in a sense, “living a lie” or trying to be someone you’re not, you will draw lies into your realm of existence. This happens because whatever your mind focuses on it will attract more of into your life.
“We often feel like we cannot be genuine because we feel we will either not be liked for it or be judged for it. We tie ourselves up in knots,” Dwoskin says. “This not only causes us to attract lies from others but it makes us feel uncomfortable about who we are.”
Meanwhile, your emotions may make it impossible to detect when you’re being lied to. This is often the case in relationships, when one partner does not want to believe or face the consequences of admitting that a lie has taken place.
If you often tell fibs to others, or if you are not honest with yourself, it’s essential to break the cycle of lies leading to and attracting more lies by letting go.
“The best way to break this cycle is to start telling yourself and others the truth -- and to let go of the feelings that that brings up inside of you,” Dwoskin says.
The Sedona Method is a scientifically proven tool that can help you to release your resistance to living with the truth, and from there you will find that lies become much more seldom in your life.
| 
