Fear of Dating:
What to do When the Idea of Going on Dates Truly Scares You
by www.Sedona.com Dating, no matter what stage of life you are at, can make you feel like you’re 16 years old again. If you’re lucky, you’ll get the giddy, butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling of love at first sight; if you’re like some people, you will feel anxiety and fear, to the extent that you avoid dating altogether. Getting a few pre-date jitters is, indeed, a completely normal part of dating. But if your fear of dating is keeping you at home, alone, night after night, you are missing out on a potentially fulfilling part of life: a relationship with the opposite sex. “Most people hate dating for two main reasons,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. “One is the fear of being rejected either when asking for a date or by the person you are dating. The other is because most of us feel like we cannot be ourselves when we are dating,” Dwoskin says. This fear of rejection and not being able to be themselves can stem from issues such as: • They have low self-esteem
• They have been hurt in a past relationship
• They are afraid a new relationship may not be successful Still, even those who are most fearful of dating would like, deep down, to meet a special person to share their life with. And doing so is simply a matter of releasing your fears. Letting go of fear, anxiety and self-esteem issues is something you can do as simply as you can let go of a pencil. The Sedona Method, a scientifically proven, do-it-yourself tool, can show you how to completely rid yourself of any fear or anxiety about dating. “The fear of rejection can easily be released if you are open to simply letting that feeling go with The Sedona Method,” Dwoskin says. “Plus, when we are willing to feel the feeling (like a fear of rejection) and go on a date anyway, the rewards always outweigh the imaginary risks.” Right now, your self-doubt and fears about dating may be sabotaging your personal life. But once you release your fears you will feel free to be excited and at ease on your next date. “The key to dating is being yourself. If your date cannot or does not want to accept you the way you are, you are much better off moving on,” Dwoskin says. “Plus, if you are yourself and do have a good time you actually may have something to pursue.”
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