How to Be Fine With NOT Fitting In
by www.Sedona.com We all went through it in high school, but even as adults it can be a struggle to feel like you belong. You may be the only one among your group of friends whose chosen to remain single. Or perhaps you have an affinity for Star Trek that no one in your office seems to understand. You may even be the “black sheep” in your family, the one who seems to think and act differently than everyone else. There will, quite simply, always be a reason why you don’t fit in, somewhere, which is why it’s an essential skill not to learn how to fit in, but to learn how to be just fine with NOT fitting in. You see, it’s not necessary to change a thing about yourself so you can be a part of the crowd. Nor is it a bad thing to be different from those in your circle. In fact, everyone feels like they don’t fit in from time to time, and everyone wants to feel like they fit in; it’s a completely normal part of life. “Most people, because we are identifying with our own limited stories, feel isolated even when they are with other people,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. Imagine, then, if you could simply feel confident in yourself whether or not you felt like you fit in. You would never have to worry about feelings of awkwardness, self-doubt or low self-esteem because you would be fine with yourself in any situation. Ironically, if you really want to enjoy the company of others and feel good about yourself, the best way to do it is to stop wanting to fit in. “The best way to break free of your suffering and feel more like you fit in is to let go of your wanting to fit in and your wanting to be different than you are,” Dwoskin says. You can easily let go of “wanting to fit in” or “wanting to change yourself” using The Sedona Method. It will teach you a series of questions that will help you to release these negative feelings and feel confident in who you are. “To always fit in,” Dwoskin says, “just allow yourself to simply be as you are.”
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