How the Desire for Instant Results Can Sabotage Your Success
– and How to Overcome "Want it Now" Thinking
by www.Sedona.com When Americans want something, they want it NOW. Instant results - at work, in relationships, when shopping and, indeed, in life in general - are not a luxury in the eyes of most, instead they are an expectation. Perhaps it is the desire for instant results that has pushed Americans to be among the most impatient people in the entire world. At least, that's what research from Dimension Data's annual, worldwide contact center survey found. Upon surveying more than 360 contact centers across the globe, the data revealed that callers in North America abandon calls more quickly than do people in the rest of the world. In fact, whereas consumers in Europe, the Middle East and Africa were willing to waiting 67 seconds before hanging up - and those in the Asia-Pacific region a full 72 seconds - North Americans were willing to wait just 37 seconds for their calls to be answered. In other words, when Americans want help, they want it NOW! The Problem With "Wanting it Now" "Desire is a quite natural part of living," says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates, "however sometimes it can take us over and cause us to lose perspective." This is because as you are busy wanting instant results, and focusing your attention on getting what you don't have, you are inadvertently drawing attention to the places of lack in your life. Meanwhile, you are missing out on the here and now. "When you want things 'right now' the way most people do, you are dealing with a feeling of scarcity or incompleteness, and you are in a rush to fill it up," Dwoskin says. "The problem, however, is that the more you get, the more empty you feel because you cannot get what you are looking for by fulfilling most desires. As soon as you get what you want, a new feeling of lack arises and you set off trying to fill that void as well," he continues. Being extremely impatient (and always wanting things immediately) is not only a surefire way to annoy your coworkers, anger fellow shoppers, and perhaps drive a wedge between you and your spouse, it's also bad for your health. Researchers from three universities followed 3,142 young adults for 13 years and found people who had a high sense of time urgency and impatience (TUI) (sometimes also referred to as a Type A personality) were more likely to develop high blood pressure (hypertension). "The higher the tendency of time urgency and impatience, the higher the risk of developing hypertension," said lead researcher Dr. LeJingh Yan in a CNN.com article. How to Stop Wanting "Instant Results" and be Content With "Right Now" Is the answer, then, to focus on being more patient, and just put your desires in abeyance? Far from it. "Trying to be patient is not the answer for most because you often simply force yourself to wait while still feeling incomplete," Dwoskin says. "The solution is letting go of the feeling of scarcity and incompleteness that most of us carry inside, and bringing that feeling of fullness to having what we desire." If you often notice a feeling of scarcity in you (recognizable by a constant yearning for something to happen), check out The Sedona Method. This is a scientifically proven tool that will show you how to easily release this feeling, and any other self-sabotaging feelings that are making you feel stressed, anxious or depressed. "When you let go of feeling incomplete, you are instinctively more allowing of the natural timing of life and also tend to enjoy all that you have while acquiring a lot more," Dwoskin says. "Releasing also helps you to be more effective at getting what you desire because you are not coming from a feeling of scarcity." Sources
Byte and Switch
CNN.com November 20, 2002
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