Preparing Yourself Emotionally for a Significant Other / Spouses’ Military Deployment
by www.Sedona.com
When your spouse or significant other is going to be deployed, you are faced with nothing but uncertainty. Not only is your partner leaving for an extended period, but they are going to perform a potentially dangerous job. This stress -- of juggling your own work, home life, and kids, along with worrying about your spouse’s safety -- can be significant.
There will be, of course, practical matters to prepare – things like bills, home projects, income, and more. But, more importantly, you need to be able to reach a place of emotional peace about your spouse’s deployment. This begins with not worrying about it while they’re still at home.
“First off, remember that they have not actually left until they are out the door,” says Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates, “so let go of worrying in advance of their deployment and do your best to enjoy the time you have before they go.”
This is where The Sedona Method can become an invaluable tool, both for you and your spouse. The Method helps you to release negative emotions, so that any time you begin to feel anxious about the upcoming deployment, you will be able to release it.
This is entirely different from suppressing the feeling, which will still cause you stress. When you release your worries, you no longer feel burdened by them at all. And being able to let go of your fears is so important, as any second you and your spouse spend worrying is a moment that you could have instead been enjoying.
Hold in Your Mind Positive Thoughts
Before your spouse has left, and also after they’ve been deployed, remember the importance of focusing your attention on the positive.
“Remember to keep releasing any fear of loss and anxiety you may have about where they are going or what they are doing,” Dwoskin says. “When you worry about another you only torture yourself and hold in mind the worst for them. Once they are deployed, remember to hold in mind the best for them and let go of the rest.”
If you have children, your optimistic outlook will also help to calm their nerves and make the absence of their parent easier.
You’re Not Alone
While your spouse is away, you may feel better by writing a daily, hand-written letter to them or sending a care package.
“If possible, also allow yourself to build a support network for yourself so that you feel less alone,” Dwoskin adds.
This could be a group of other military spouses that you can connect with, a support group in your area, or an online support group. Also equally important, remember to ask for help when you need it, for emotional support or any matter.
Surrounding yourself with others, and feeling you have a support network, can help to also take your mind off of missing them, which you should also release using The Sedona Method.
“When someone you love is not there, rather than focusing on how much you miss them allow yourself to open to the love that you feel when they are there,” Dwoskin says. “This may seem backwards but if you allow yourself to let go of the feeling of missing them you will actually feel more connected.”
And when your spouse finally comes home, continue to release your anxiety and concerns using The Sedona Method, and you will experience your relationship growing stronger than ever before.
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