Relationship Insecurity and How to Overcome it for Good
by www.Sedona.com
Most people feel a bit insecure when meeting someone new and even during the beginning stages of dating. If, however, you are in a steady relationship with a caring partner, and you have nagging insecurities about yourself and your partner, something deeper may be going on.
Insecurity often stems not from reality but from fear. Fear of rejection, fear of intimacy, and even fear of losing your identity may all come into play. It is likely that you may have also carried these insecurities over from a past relationship, and now are allowing them to wreak havoc on your current one.
Of course, if you feel insecure it is next to impossible to have a healthy relationship, as it can manifest in many ways:
Meanwhile, the more insecure you feel, the more you are likely to distrust your partner, attempt to control him or her, or avoid discussing future plans -- all of which can ultimately lead to what you fear: a relationship breakdown.
What can you do to break this cycle and feel confident in yourself and your relationship?
First, realize that only you, and not your partner, can give yourself inner strength.
“Remember that security never comes from outside of yourself -- especially from another person,” says Hale Dowskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates. “The best way to find security in a relationship is to bring your own inner security with you.”
Now, if you’re having trouble finding your inner security, all you have to do is release your feelings of insecurity, including the fear, the anxiety, the mistrust and the negative self-talk. If this sounds difficult, then you have not learned The Sedona Method. With this tool, you will learn how to drop your insecurities as easily as you can drop a pencil.
“If you are feeling insecure in a relationship, treat it as the feeling that it is and let it go,” Dwoskin says.
Then, take some time to rekindle the romance that may have dwindled.
Keep in mind, however, that while many insecurities are, in fact, internal issues that need to be released, some may be legit. How can you tell the difference?
“If the feeling of insecurity persists even after some good releasing then it’s time to examine whether or not this is the right relationship for you,” Dwoskin says. | 
