Saying Goodbye for a Long Time: How to Handle Long-Term Absence of Someone You Love
by www.Sedona.com
“Absence diminishes commonplace passions and increases great ones, as the wind extinguishes candles and kindles fire.”
--Duc de la Rochefoucauld (1613-80)
An estimated 7 million couples in the United States live apart from their partners, according to the Institute on Long Distance Relationships (ILDR), and countless others are separated from their loved ones on a daily basis.
Whether because of work travel, military duty, divorce, or other life circumstances, sometimes it’s impossible to be with the ones you love.
That is not to say, of course, that it is easy.
What can you do to make saying goodbye for a long-term absence, and getting through the time that follows, easier? Ironically, according to Hale Dwoskin, CEO and director of training of Sedona Training Associates, you should try not to miss them.
“When someone you love is not there, rather than focusing on how much you miss them allow yourself to open to the love that you feel when they are there,” Dwoskin says. “This may seem backwards but if you allow yourself to let go of the feeling of missing them you will actually feel more connected.”
This may sound shocking, but if you delve a little deeper you’ll find that it makes perfect sense. After all, your emotions color, create, and lock your limitations in place, making the limitations supposedly “real.” In this case, your limitation is believing that you are sad, incomplete or unable to be happy when your loved one is away.
You have within your reach a very simple tool that can help you to release these limitations instantly. It’s called The Sedona Method, and it has helped hundreds of thousands of people to achieve lasting happiness and peace.
Along with letting go of your tendency to wish your partner were there, remember that there are ways to stay close even when you’re apart. Sending hand-written letters, photos, videos and leaving a few special mementos behind are just a few examples.
“Of course, you would prefer your loved one always being with you, but this is not something that you always have control over,” Dwoskin says. “So letting go can give you the feelings you would have if your loved one was actually there -- and then when they do come home you can enjoy them even more.”
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