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Love Yourself: Why Most People Don’t Practice Self-Congratulation Enough

by Hale Dwoskin

When is the last time you gave yourself a pat on the back, or rewarded yourself just for being you? Chances are it’s been awhile. Yet, sadly, you have probably criticized yourself in some way or another multiple times today. For instance, one ABC News article reported that 35 percent of women have negative thoughts about their body up to five times a day. Yet, how many times have you thought positive things about your appearance, personality or accomplishments? Not enough to count?

Perhaps you are also the person who is the first one to compliment others and give those around you a boost — except when it comes to yourself. If you find that you rarely give yourself the praise you deserve, it may be because:

  • You have low self-esteem
  • You feel guilty doing so
  • You feel you should only focus on others
  • You have trouble recognizing your accomplishments

Yet, just as you respond to others need to be recognized, you, too, deserve to feel special. You need to love yourself.

Getting some well-deserved recognition is actually a very primal need. Dopamine, a neurotransmitter produced in your brain, makes you feel pleasure, pride, contentment and a host of other good things. And it’s released when you receive recognition. On the other hand, when you’re expecting praise but don’t receive it, dopamine levels drop, leading to feelings of frustration, anger and anxiety.

But you don’t have to wait to get recognition from somebody else. You can give it to yourself.


Well,  it’s natural once you achieve a lasting, positive mindset.

It is not the actual singing of your own praises that improves your self esteem and well-being, it is the mindset that allows you to do that — that produces the positive result. In other words, the better you feel about yourself the more likely you will be to give yourself credit when you deserve it.

Learning to Love Yourself:

Getting the mindset that allows you to love yourself unconditionally is not hard when you learn The Sedona Method. This is a simple tool that has helped hundreds of thousands of people to value who they are right now.

It works by teaching you how to let go of the guilt, negativity and belittling feelings that are keeping you from feeling great about yourself.

The simplest way to improve your feelings of self-worth and well-being is to let go of all your thoughts and feelings to the contrary. As you do this you naturally feel more confident, relaxed and open. This may or may not produce the result of you taking the action of tooting your own horn, but either way you will feel better.