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How to Never Give Up

June 20th, 2014 by Hale Dwoskin

When things get hard at home, at work or somewhere in between, you may be tempted to throw in the towel, admit your defeat and just give up. At times, this can certainly seem like the easier way out — getting a divorce rather than trying to resolve deep-seated issues, not going to the gym because you’re already overweight anyway, not even considering the recently opened executive position at the office because you’re sure you wouldn’t get it.

Yet, there are those people who do keep trying — and ultimately succeed.

Famous people whose drive led them to success even in the wake of defeat or major hardship include Lance Armstrong, Abraham Lincoln, and Albert Einstein, who did not speak until he was 4 years old. Steve Jobs dropped out of college but went on to create Apple computers in his parents’ garage, while Michael Jordan was actually cut from his high-school basketball team. But there are even more people that you’ve probably never heard of who never give up.

Take, for instance, Bethany Hamilton, a teenager and amateur surfing champion who lost her arm in a shark attack, yet continues to surf and snowboard. Or Robbie Doughty, a soldier who lost both his legs fighting in Iraq who recently opened his own business. Then there’s Chris Gardner, a once homeless man who became an incredibly successful stockbroker and about
whom the recent movie “The Pursuit of Happyness” is based.

Why Perseverance Can Get You Anything You Want

Are these people born with a certain je ne sais quoi that makes them able to persevere when others might fail? Absolutely not. Scientific studies have even proven this. Say British researchers Michael J. Howe, Jane W. Davidson and John A. Sluboda who studied the topic of whether success is the result of innate abilities, “The evidence we have surveyed…does not support the [notion that] excelling is a consequence of possessing innate gifts.”

So, anyone can join the ranks of the great because never giving up is something that comes from within, but which you must foster within yourself. As former U.S. president Calvin Coolidge said:

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated
derelicts. Persistence and determination are omnipotent. The slogan press on has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.

How to Achieve the Tenacity to Keep Trying Even When it’s Hard

Knowing that persistence is necessary to achieve your dreams is one thing. Achieving that persistence is quite another, but it is something that is well within your reach.

The first step to becoming someone who keeps trying is to release the negative emotions and thoughts that may be holding you back. Our emotions quite literally create our conscious and subconscious thoughts, and our thoughts either put us into action or prevent us from acting. With the scientifically proven Sedona Method, however, you will learn how to easily break the patterns of thought and behavior that cause this self-sabotage to occur.

The Method teaches you a series of questions that will give you the clarity of mind and positive attitude you need to master any life situation. Hundreds of thousands of people have already used this technique with great success!

Meanwhile, along with freeing yourself from negative thought patterns, use these practical tips to become great at anything you desire:

  • Work toward your goal. Experts say most people need around 10 years of hard work to master their craft, but it can take up to 20, or even 30 years for some. “The 10-year rule represents a very rough estimate, and most researchers regard it as a minimum, not an average,” say researchers John Horn of the University of Southern California and Hiromi Masunaga of California State University.
  • Practice, practice, practice. Studies show that top performers are always the ones who practice the most, whether you’re talking about athletics, music, or surgery. “Elite performers in many diverse domains have been found to practice, on the average, roughly the same amount every day, including weekends,said professor K. Anders Ericsson of Florida State University.
  • Seek positive feedback. Part of what will give you the will to keep trying is hearing someone else tell you how great you’re doing. Recognition is key to feeling appreciated and wanting to keep going. As Steve Kerr, leadership development chief at Goldman Sachs says about not receiving feedback, “It’s as if you’re bowling through a
    curtain that comes down to knee level. If you don’t know how successful you are, two things happen: One, you don’t get any better, and two, you stop caring.” So, if you’ve been trying for a while and haven’t gotten any feedback, actively seek some out from someone whose opinion matters to you.

-Hale