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How to Release Anger

by Hale Dwoskin

Suppressed anger is damaging to your relationships, your health and your peace of mind.

Anger is such a damaging emotion that, if left unchecked, it can lead to depression, substance abuse and other problems. Anger is also a form of stress, and stress is responsible for 75 percent to 90 percent of Americans’ doctor visits, according to the American Institute for Stress.

In time, if you don’t learn how to release anger, it can seriously damage your health. For instance, anger:

  • Increases your risk of cardiovascular disease, diabetes and high blood pressure, according to the August 2007 issue of Brain, Behavior and Immunity
  • Decreases lung function, according to the journal Health Psychology
  • May predict your risk of heart disease better than other traditional risk factors like high cholesterol, cigarette smoking and weight, according to a study in the November 2002 issue of Health Psychology

Right now, Americans are angry a lot. Just a quick glance through major media headlines reveals that Americans are angry about the state of the nation, politics, the financial crisis, and the U.S.-Mexico border fence. As if those issues aren’t heavy enough to get your blood boiling, you no doubt have personal and professional matters that make you angry at times as well.

But no matter what the cause of your anger, even if you often feel angry for no reason at all — in time it will begin to break down every meaningful relationship in your life. So learning how to release anger, even if you feel justified in your anger,  is essential for your very sanity and health.

But the answer is NOT to simply avoid the things that make you feel angry in the first place.

It is important to be open and honest in relationships. If you try to avoid all feelings of anger, you will simply be suppressing it. If you allow yourself to communicate openly, honestly, and lovingly right when the angry feeling begins; it tends to be defused much more quickly and released much more easily.

So as you begin to feel angry, be sure to keep all lines of communication open, whether you are talking to your spouse, a co-worker or a rude sales clerk. Then, tap into your natural ability to release negative emotions, like anger, anxiety, and rage, so you can feel calm and at peace even during tense situations.

By releasing your anger, something you can learn to do on the spot using The Sedona Method, you are freeing yourself from its negative side effects, including mental upset, physical disturbances and relationship tension.

When angry feelings come to the surface, communicate about them and then let them go. Then you can welcome the angry feeling as you feel it, and remember it’s just a feeling. Then you can choose to let it go.

As you go through the process, you can also allow yourself to let go of wanting to be right. We often hold onto anger in order to prove how right we are rather than looking for a mutual solution. And when we let go of wanting to be right, it is much easier to let go, communicate and find a win-win solution.