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Smartphone Addiction

July 16th, 2014 by Hale Dwoskin

As of 2007, 84 percent of the U.S. population subscribed to smartphone service of some sort. This is a massive amount, especially considering that just 13 percent of the population had cell phone service in 2005. And this trend is showing no signs of slowing.

Experts are expecting smartphone usage to continue to grow as technology advances, and our reliance on them to grow along with it.

Already, a Pew Internet & American Life Project survey found that 51% of those polled said it would be very hard to give up their smartphones.

Though smartphone “addiction” has yet to be classified as a real disorder, the signs of an emerging problem are already there. Smartphones ring commonly at the most inappropriate of times — in movie theaters, during speeches, weddings, funerals — and sometimes are even answered. People, it seems, are actually afraid of NOT being connected, even for a short period of
time.

Case in point, information-science professor Sergio Chaparro asked 220 Rutgers University students to turn off their smartphones for 72 hours. How many were able to complete this seemingly simple assignment? Only three.

“They were afraid. They were truly afraid,” Chaparro told FOX News. “What I found was basically a high level of dependence on smartphones. Most students were particularly, I would say, scared of the experience…They had high levels of anxiety, high levels of stress, high levels of insecurity.”

Chaparro’s experiment was conducted in 2003, and one could assume that the response would only be more severe today, five years later.

While older generations tend to feel annoyed by the constant influx of calls to smartphones, younger generations are thoroughly hooked and actually can feel withdrawal if their smartphone is taken away. There are even reports of 12- and 13-year-old children being treated for “smartphone addiction” at a clinic in Spain, after they talked or texted an average of six hours a day, and had trouble doing school work or everyday tasks because of the phones.

Why Smartphones Have Such a Strong Hold On Us

It’s easy to understand why people love smartphones. They’re incredibly convenient, they keep us connected and they’re great for emergencies. But the reliance we’ve come to have on them — keeping them turned on at all times, accepting calls at inappropriate times, texting non-stop, and basically feeling completely lost without them — goes much deeper.

Many of us live on our smartphone. We do this in order to avoid the sense of loneliness and isolation that most of us feel even if we are in a great relationship or surrounded by loving people. This sense of isolation is based on our identifying with our sense of being an individual separate from others. When this is examined it can be discovered that this separate individual is not real.

So how can you tell if you’re addicted?

Consumer behavior expert Diana James says that running up high bills and having irrational reactions if you have to be without your smartphone are the top signs.

“The paradox of the phone is that it gives independence but it also creates dependence,” she told Psych Central News.

In fact, almost all addictions manifest the same types of symptoms, including:

  • You do it more and more as time goes by
  • You always make sure you have it on hand
  • When you give in to the addiction, you feel happy or secure
  • You feel you need the addiction to get through the day
  • You have tried to stop the addiction in the past, but weren’t able to
  • You find it difficult to stay away from the behavior for several days

Addictions also have something else in common.

All addictions are coping mechanisms for unresolved emotions.

This is why, if you experience feelings of isolation and loneliness when you’re without your smartphone, letting those feelings go using The Sedona Method is essential.

When you release these negative feelings you will discover that you do not need to be talking on the phone in order to be fulfilled or to make yourself feel needed, safe or complete. Part of the reason to release the need to be always on the phone is that it can be a great distraction from life and may even cause health risks from the phone itself or the inattentiveness that comes from talking on the phone while doing something else, especially driving.

As you let go of your need to have a smartphone with you at all times, be sure to release on all of the possible emotions it brings up in you: a fear of being alone, liking yourself better when you’re on the phone, a need for constant attention from others, or insecurity if you’re without your phone.

Meanwhile, you can support your effort to break a smartphone addiction by setting limits on how long you use your phone each day, by turning it off at certain times, such as between 10 p.m. and 9 a.m., or even by purchasing
prepaid minutes so you’re not tempted to go overboard.

-Hale

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  2. marie says:

    Thank you Hale for discussing the issue of cell phones. Yes I agree there are many positives to having a cell phone but also many negatives that are destructive to relationships. In my experience many of my friends are addicted to their phones and that is where their focus of attention is. Due to this many of my friendships, instead of creating feelings of oneness and belonging have triggered feelings of loneliness and separation from those closest to me. The phone then holds all of the power and acts as the glue that connects people and if you choose not to use your phone, then to others you are choosing not to connect. It is the same in relationships, how or when you receive and reply to a text message translates into how much you or they love one another or how to hurt one another.
    In my experience to date of using the sedonna method it is the only tool that helps me to experience freedom from this and keeps me sane by releasing on both the need for separation, oneness and the underlying feelings. Thank you Hale with all of my heart for helping Lester to bring this into the world in a way that resonates with me.

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